My inspiration to learn about children behavior occurred from the birth of my nephew, who is now five years old. Recently I was asked to do a presentation on Cognitive-Behavior Theory and I was surprised to see few of my studies were actually been already studied and put on papers by famous psychologists. Indeed, I was impressed about it. My study on my nephew not only I have learnt but my family as well was part of this. So many observation were made and tried alternative ways to resolve any troubled situation. This has given me determination to study further and take a stand to help other people. As much as I can I am helping people out. I thought to share few things which you already know but may help you.
Recently, the news of the boy who passed away and a video which I have seen on facebook I was thinking how I can help. It is authorities responsibility to take up investigate and take any necessary action. Mothers play an essential role in the child’s life. And the closest person the child will always see is the mother. In rare cases sometimes the child has attachment to the father. However, in general mother is the first person that the child receive love and make a connection. A common statement a lot mothers or a fathers will say “I know how to raise my own child” the question is DO WE?
How well do we really know the wiring of the brain? How well do we know to read the future and say my child will be like this or that? Sometimes parents sit and think of how unfortunate they are, when the child abuses drugs or become a killer. At this point the argument is, how we raise a good child that has a morality that people appreciate. Understanding the children is the main action and believing that your child is a special gift. We all should know our brains are not wired up in same particular order and our genes are different than one another. Our characters are different.
Parents sometimes feel children do understand like a mature adult. In fact, they don’t! What they do understand is the statements that you put on their brain. They stay like a memory. Experience is something that the child had to go through to fully understand the process of what the parent had gone through but, any tragic experience it is impossible to feel the exact same amount of what parent had been. Children are very innocent human being they only try to do something to experience and labeling them the bad ones make the child go through is more pain.
Something I personally experience is the tension of parents. These moment it is very hard for some parents to put up with their active child. Rather than they go snappy at the child or hit them. What is the child fault? Especially children who are younger below seven years are so adorable they only want to be very much close to parents. The other thing which I also come across is that parents expect the children to stop their any abnormal behavior, when they are brought to child attention. I am afraid to say, the child is still growing and it will take time to grasp and wire and grow the information in the child’s brain.
When parents know these basic fact about child what I think this will help to understand your child better. We are more on to teach an adult way to learn things rather than sitting and observing how the children can be learned their own comfortable way. It’s time to change how we perceive towards the children. It is time to think how your child can be taught? We need more awareness programs and more counseling to the parents about children. Observe your Child behavior don’t neglect. Patient is the key to success for a happier family.
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